Talking or Tapping? How Technology Can Boost — or Block — Your Child’s Language Growth
Children learn to speak by hearing speech — not swipes. But the right tech, used wisely, can support language, not silence it. A child’s brain is wired for words. From birth, they’re tuning into the rhythm, tone and melody of language. And by the time they reach Reception, their vocabulary size is one of the strongest predictors of school success. But in today’s screen-saturated world, many children are hearing fewer words and speaking less. 📉 One UK study found that toddlers heard 4 million fewer words by age 3 if regularly exposed to heavy screen time. Why? Because screens can replace conversations — rather than stimulate them. 📱 The Double-Edged Sword of Digital Technology isn’t the villain. But it needs a purposeful place in a child’s day. Technology can block language when: It’s used passively (e.g., background TV, YouTube autoplay) It replaces live, responsive conversations It dominates mealtimes, play, car journeys or bedtime routines But tech can also boost language when: It’s interactive and co-viewed with an adult It encourages turn-taking, naming, predicting and discussing It builds on a child’s real-world interests The difference? Who is involved, how it’s used, and what happens afterwards. 🧠 The Language-Development Superpowers Children NeedChildren need: Serve-and-return conversations(“You said ‘moo’ – yes, the cow goes moo! What else is in the field?”) Rich, descriptive vocabulary(“That’s a shiny, golden leaf – let’s count how many we find!”) Opportunities to ask and answer questions(“What do you think will happen next?” “Why did that happen?”) Responsive adults who model speechNot robots or autoplay cartoons. Language grows in relationships, not isolation. 7 Real-World Tips to Nurture Language in a Digital Age Talk More Than You Type Narrate your day. Let children hear the rhythm of speech: “I’m chopping carrots. Orange and crunchy. What comes next?” Children don’t just need talking at them — they need talking with. Use Screens Together – Not as a Babysitter. Make tech social. Ask: “What do you see?” “How do you think they feel?” “Can you tell me what happens next?” The tech isn’t the teacher — you are. Ban Background TV Even if no one’s watching, background noise disrupts focus and play — and adults speak less when it’s on. Keep play and conversation screen-free, especially in shared spaces. Swap Swiping for Storytelling Story apps aren’t a replacement for real books or bedtime stories. Let children hear stories with: Intonation Expression Pauses for questions It’s not just reading — it’s a relationship. Encourage Pretend Play Role-play builds narrative structure, vocabulary and creativity. Whether it’s playing shops, pirates or doctors, children use rich language to bring their ideas to life. Play Sound and Listening Games Try: “I spy something that starts with S” Sound walks (what can we hear outside?) “Simon Says” for following instructions Simple games = powerful listening skills. Model Curious Conversations Ask open-ended questions: “What do you notice?”“Why do you think that happened?”“How did that make you feel?” Children absorb language from those who model curiosity. For Parents: Focus on Connection, Not Correction Children don’t need grammar lessons – they need opportunities to express themselves, be listened to, and gently expanded. If a child says: “Me goed to the park.” You can say: “Yes, you went to the park! What did you do there?” Correct through modelling, not criticism. For Nurseries and Early Years Practitioners: Conversations Come Before Worksheets In settings where school readiness is a hot topic, don’t default to formal learning. Instead: Give space for small-group storytimes Use everyday routines for rich talk (e.g., snacktime, tidy-up) Train staff in sustained shared thinking — those magical moments when an adult and child share a conversation that deepens thinking and vocabulary It’s the dialogue, not the device, that grows the brain. Don’t Panic – Talk! Children don’t need constant chatter or screen bans. They need language-rich relationships, playful exploration, and moments of wonder. So whether you’re a parent, practitioner, or both: Let’s make real-world, real-voice conversation the centrepiece of early years learning. Because before a child can read and write, they must listen and speak. 🎒 Ready to Grow a Talkative, Confident School Starter? The Sue Atkins School Readiness Toolkit gives you the resources to: ✅ Spark conversations✅ Boost listening and language✅ Balance tech time with real talk Perfect for homes, nurseries and classrooms preparing little ones for a big world. 👉 Download the toolkit here Let’s raise confident communicators — one word at a time.
Log Off, Tune In: Raising Emotionally Ready Kids Before Reception
Emotional literacy is a bigger predictor of school success than knowing letters or numbers – and it starts long before the classroom. When we talk about school readiness, we often focus on academic basics – counting to 10, recognising letters, writing their name But the quiet superpower that often gets overlooked?Emotional regulation. A child’s ability to recognise, manage and express their feelings is a stronger predictor of school success than early reading skills. And in today’s digital world – where swiping is easier than sitting with discomfort – building that inner resilience matters more than ever. What Is Emotional Regulation – And Why Does It Matter? Emotional regulation is a child’s ability to: These are the skills that allow children to thrive in group settings, solve problems, and form secure relationships with peers and teachers. Without them, even the brightest child can struggle in the classroom. How Screens Are Short-Circuiting Emotional Growth We live in a world of instant gratification. When children get bored, frustrated, or upset, it’s tempting to hand over a device. And sometimes, that’s okay. But when screens become a child’s primary coping tool, they don’t get to practise the skills they’ll need in real life: Digital devices soothe the symptom, not the system. And if we’re not careful, we raise children who can swipe through apps but struggle to sit with themselves. 6 Ways to Build Emotional Resilience Before School Starts Whether you’re a parent, teacher or nursery practitioner, you can help children build the emotional toolkit they’ll carry into Reception – and beyond. 1. Name the Feeling Start with emotional literacy.Help children put words to what they’re experiencing: “You’re really cross because the game stopped.”“That’s a sad face – did something feel unfair?” This helps reduce overwhelm and builds self-awareness. 2. Use Storybooks as Emotional Mirrors Children relate to characters. Use books where characters feel frustrated, worried, jealous, left out – and talk about it. Ask: Stories open doors to deep emotional conversations. 3. Practise Calming Strategies When Calm Teach children what helps them feel better – not just in the moment, but before the meltdown. Try: Rehearse these tools when they’re feeling good – not in the middle of a meltdown. 4. Let Them Feel It – Don’t Rush to Fix It When children are upset, it’s tempting to distract or fix it quickly – often with a screen. But sitting with them through it builds tolerance and connection: “It’s okay to be upset. I’m here with you. Take your time.” They learn that feelings pass – and they’re not alone. 5. Keep Screen Time Calm and Conscious Tech can be part of a balanced life – but not the crutch for every emotional wobble. 6. Model What You Want to See Children copy how we deal with stress.If we name our feelings (“I’m a bit tired today – I need a walk”) and use healthy strategies, they will too. We don’t need to be perfect. We just need to be real. For Parents: Regulate First, Then Educate You don’t need to rush into phonics and flashcards.If your child knows how to: Children can’t learn when they’re dysregulated. Emotional readiness is the real first lesson. For Nurseries and Professionals: Prioritise Feelings, Not Just Funding In early years settings, there’s often pressure to track learning outcomes. But emotional wellbeing must remain the priority. Give children: The most powerful ‘intervention’ is always connection. Let’s Raise Children Who Can Sit With Sadness and Celebrate Joy Children entering school today face a fast-paced world.We can’t protect them from every wobble — but we can equip them to handle life’s ups and downs with confidence and calm. So let’s put emotional resilience at the centre of school readiness.Because a child who can manage their emotions is a child who is ready to learn. 🎒 Want to Nurture Emotionally Resilient Children in a Screen-Saturated World? The Navigating the Digital Jungle School Readiness Toolkit is filled with printable resources and play-based activities to help children: ✅ Build emotional intelligence✅ Learn calming strategies✅ Navigate tech mindfully Whether you’re a parent, nursery, or early years professional, this toolkit gives you screen-savvy support with real-life emotional growth. 👉 Get it here and start the journey today
Beyond the Screen – Why True School Readiness Starts Offline
School Ready, Tech Smart Welcome to my new School Readiness & Tech: Article Series When we talk about getting children ready for school, technology often enters the conversation early. Parents are bombarded with messages about apps that claim to teach toddlers to read, online platforms promising to make maths fun, and screens marketed as tools to give their child a head start. But the truth is more timeless and reassuring: the most important aspects of school readiness have nothing to do with technology at all. They are built offline, through real-world play, interaction, movement, and conversation. In this article, we explore what true school readiness means — and why it’s vital for early years professionals, nurseries, teachers, and parents to look beyond the screen when laying the foundations for learning. What is real school readiness? School readiness doesn’t mean being able to recite the alphabet or complete worksheets. It’s about a set of skills, attitudes, and emotional strengths that allow a child to enter the classroom with confidence and resilience. Children who are truly ready for school can: These abilities aren’t built through screen interactions. They are developed through rich, hands-on experiences that stimulate all areas of a child’s development. The Risk of Overreliance on Technology in Early Childhood There’s no doubt that technology has a place in modern childhood. Used wisely, it can support storytelling, creativity, and connection. However, when technology dominates a young child’s daily life — particularly passive screen use — it can displace the very activities that are most essential for development. For instance: In 2019, a World Health Organisation guideline suggested that children under five should have no more than one hour of sedentary screen time per day — and that infants under one year should have no screen time at all. Why? Because early childhood is a critical period for physical, emotional, and cognitive growth that can’t be outsourced to technology. Play: The Engine of Readiness If we want to prepare children for school — and life — we must protect and champion play. Play is how children explore the world, test out ideas, develop resilience, and learn to collaborate. In play, they make decisions, solve problems, experience emotions, and work out how to negotiate with others. They encounter frustrations (“the tower fell down!”) and learn to persevere (“I’ll try again.”). Simple, screen-free experiences are incredibly powerful: When children are immersed in play, they are not “just playing” — they are laying down the neural pathways that will support reading, writing, maths, science, and emotional resilience later on. Building Readiness Without Screens: Practical Tips For early years settings, schools, and parents, the question becomes: how can we support school readiness in a world saturated with technology? Here are some practical steps: Conclusion: A Different Kind of Head Start The best preparation for school doesn’t come from a screen, a worksheet, or a “learn to read” app. It comes from connection, conversation, play, and exploration. When we give children the freedom to move, create, imagine, and interact with real people and the real world, we are not holding them back — we are giving them the most powerful head start of all. Because readiness isn’t about what children know — it’s about how they approach learning itself.And that journey always begins beyond the screen. Ready to give your child the very best start? Discover the ‘Navigating the Digital Jungle School Readiness Toolkit’ — your complete guide to preparing confident, resilient, and curious learners. Packed with expert advice, practical activities, downloadable resources, and step-by-step strategies, this toolkit is trusted by parents, nurseries, and teachers alike. Whether you’re supporting one child or a whole group, it’s the easy-to-use, research-backed roadmap that helps you balance real-world play and healthy technology habits — giving children everything they need to thrive, both now and as they start school. Explore the toolkit today and start building a brilliant foundation for lifelong learning. Discover more on the link here.
Sleep & Screens: Navigating the Digital Jungle at Bedtime 💤 📱
Sleep is the unsung hero of healthy development – yet in homes across the country, it’s under siege from glowing screens, pinging notifications, and endless scrolling. Whether it’s a toddler transfixed by cartoons or a teen watching TikToks past midnight, devices are distracting, stimulating, and interfering with one of the most essential parts of family life: a good night’s sleep. So how do we, as parents, navigate this part of the digital jungle? Let’s start by understanding why it matters – and then move to what we can do about it. Why Sleep Matters – At Every Age From babies to teenagers, sleep plays a critical role in: How Devices Disrupt Sleep Here’s what’s going on: What Parents Can Do – Practical Tips 1. Create a Digital CurfewSet a household rule that all devices are off at least an hour before bed – ideally longer for teens and toddlers alike. 2. Make Bedrooms Screen-Free ZonesCharge phones in the kitchen. Swap tablets for real books. Make the bedroom a place for rest, not reels. 3. Establish a Calm Bedtime RoutineWind-down time could include a warm bath, a story, gentle music, or journaling. Routine helps signal the brain that sleep is coming. 4. Model It YourselfChildren of all ages notice your habits. Try not to scroll while saying goodnight or check your phone during bedtime routines. Scripts to Start the Conversation These aren’t lectures. They’re calm, confident conversations that build connection, not conflict. For Toddlers & Young Children“Let’s tuck the tablet into bed too. It needs to rest so we can have more fun tomorrow!” For Primary School Kids“Screens are fun, but sleep is superpower fuel. Let’s put the tablet away now so your brain and body can grow strong while you sleep.” For Tweens“I know it’s tempting to sneak a scroll, but your brain deserves a break. Want to come up with a bedtime playlist or read together for a few minutes instead?” For Teens“I get that your phone helps you stay connected. But the science is clear – sleep is essential for your mood, memory, and mental health. How can we make this easier – maybe a charging spot downstairs?” A Final Thought Helping your child sleep better isn’t about being strict – it’s about being smart. In this part of the digital jungle, it’s not the lion we need to worry about, but the lure of one more video, one more scroll, one more level. Navigating this together, with empathy and consistency, can transform the bedtime battle into a bedtime bond.
How to Say “No” Without Being the Bad Guy: Navigating Social Media Rules With Your Daughter
I was sent in this great question from an attendee on my recent Behind the Selfie: Girls, Social Media, and Self-Esteem Struggles Power Hour Webinar It’s such a common and totally understandable feeling — no one wants to be the “fun sponge” parent, especially when it’s something their child loves, and all their friends are doing. But setting boundaries doesn’t mean you’re the bad guy — it means you care. Here’s a way to reframe and respond: How to not be seen as the “bad guy” — and what to say: 1. Acknowledge her feelings first Start with empathy. Let her know you see her. Try saying: “I can see how much you love this, and I get that it feels unfair when your friends are allowed and you’re not.” This validates her without giving in. 2. Be open and honest about your reasoning Kids don’t need every detail, but they do appreciate being in the loop. Try: “My job is to look out for you, even when it’s hard. I’m not trying to stop you from having fun — I’m trying to make sure you’re safe and happy in the long run.” You can even admit it’s not always easy: “Honestly, I don’t like saying no to you. I know it’s tough.” 3. Shift from “no” to “not yet” or “let’s find a way together” It feels less like a brick wall and more like a conversation. Try: “I’m not saying never — just not right now. Let’s talk about what needs to be in place for me to feel more confident about it.” This could include things like maturity, safety settings, screen time limits, or emotional readiness. 4. Offer alternatives that still meet her need If she’s craving connection, creativity, or status — find other ways to support that. Example: “You love creating videos — maybe we could do something together with that offline or with a smaller group of friends in a safer space.” 5. Make it about values, not control Frame your parenting around values like confidence, self-respect, safety, and balance. Say: “I’m trying to help you become someone who’s strong, thoughtful, and true to herself — not just someone who follows the crowd.” 6. Play the long game They may roll their eyes now, but down the line, many kids say they respected the boundaries — especially when parents kept communication open and respectful. How to Say No Without Being the Villain For those moments when you’re setting a boundary, -and it feels like you’re crushing their world SCRIPTS 👂 Step 1: Acknowledge Their Feelings “I can tell this really matters to you. I know how much you enjoy it, and I get that it feels unfair when your friends are allowed and you’re not.” 🧠 Why? Validates their feelings, which builds trust and keeps the door open for conversation. 💬 Step 2: Be Honest About Your Reasoning “My job is to keep you safe and help you grow into someone confident and happy — even if that means making hard calls.” “I’m not saying no to hurt you. I’m doing it because I care more about you than what’s easy.” 🧠 Why? Kids are more likely to accept limits if they understand the “why.” 🕒 Step 3: Reframe It as “Not Yet” or “Let’s Explore Together” “I’m not saying never — just not yet. Let’s keep talking about this and work out what would help us both feel more comfortable.” “Maybe we can revisit this in a few months and see how things are going.” 🧠 Why? “Not yet” feels fairer and more hopeful than “no.” 🧩 Step 4: Offer an Alternative That Meets the Same Need If she’s drawn to connection → “What about inviting a few friends round instead this weekend? You could have a mini screen-free hangout or movie night.” If she’s feeling left out → “Let’s come up with something you can do that feels special and fun, just for you.” 🧠 Why? It shows you’re not trying to take away joy, just guiding it safely. 💖 Step 5: End With a Value-Based Statement “Our family values kindness, courage, and balance. I want you to grow up trusting your gut — not just going along with what everyone else is doing.” “Sometimes, saying no is part of helping you become the amazing person you’re meant to be.” 🧠 Why? Kids need to know there’s a bigger picture — and that they’re part of it.
What is Screen Time Costing our Children in the Early Years?
In a world where screens are everywhere—from smart TVs and tablets to phones in our pockets—it’s no surprise that even our youngest children are being drawn into the digital swirl. But as technology becomes more embedded in daily life, a growing body of research is urging us to pause and ask: What is screen time costing our children in the early years? Toddler tantrums & tech — what’s really going on? You’re in a café. Your toddler’s bored. You hand them your phone. Peace… for now. Sound familiar? In today’s digital world, more and more parents are turning to screens to soothe toddler meltdowns. But while it might feel like a lifeline in the moment, over time it can delay something far more important: your child’s ability to regulate emotions. Tantrums aren’t “bad behaviour.” They’re big feelings in little people who don’t yet have the words—or the tools—to cope. As a parenting expert, I help families shift from “Plug in and Pacify” to “Pause and Connect.” Here are 3 quick tips to help your toddler learn emotional resilience—without always reaching for tech: Name it to tame it – “You’re feeling cross because we had to leave the park.” Create a calm corner – A cosy space with books, cuddly toys, or sensory items. Model calm – Your calm is contagious. Breathe through the storm together. Let’s raise children who can feel their feelings—not fear them. Let’s use tech intentionally—not as a crutch. Pause to Ponder and if you need a hand I’m here to help. 1. The Science of Screen Exposure The first five years of life are a time of incredible brain development. During this window, children’s brains are building the neural foundations for empathy, language, attention, and emotional regulation. And the best way to support that growth? Through real-world, multi-sensory interactions—not screens. When children engage with people, nature, and open-ended play, they experience the kind of stimulation that strengthens brain architecture. But when screens dominate the early years: These aren’t just minor hiccups—they’re foundational to a child’s lifelong wellbeing. 2. Tech in the Nursery: Helpful or Harmful? Screens are becoming more common in early years settings—sometimes used for entertainment, sometimes for managing behaviour, and often marketed as “educational.” But most so-called educational apps are built for profit, not child development. They often offer flashy animations and reward-based systems that interrupt deeper thinking and learning. More importantly, screen time can displace the very things young children need most: When screens are overused, they crowd out the simple joys of childhood—the games, the giggles, the mess, the magic. 3. Early Attachment in a Digital Age Let’s talk about technoference—that moment when a parent looks down at their phone during play, or scrolls through messages while feeding their baby. It may seem small, but for a child, these interruptions can chip away at their sense of being seen, heard, and valued. Young children don’t just need to be cared for; they need to feel emotionally connected. Screens can’t offer that connection—only human presence can. Secure attachment forms through micro-moments: eye contact, soothing words, shared laughter. These are the interactions that teach a child, “You matter. You’re safe. You are loved.” 4. Reclaiming Childhood Childhood isn’t a race. It’s not a performance. It’s a sacred time of wonder, curiosity, and discovery. Reclaiming it in the digital age means having the courage to say: It’s not about banning technology but about making intentional choices. Let’s model presence. Let’s protect time for play, connection, and creativity. Let’s remember that the best “app” for a young child is a present adult. A Final Thought Our children are growing up in a digital world, and that isn’t going to change. But the way we introduce and balance technology can change. Let’s start early. Let’s be thoughtful. Let’s reclaim childhood—not just for our kids, but for ourselves too. Need a little extra support?Download my ‘Navigating the Digital Jungle. A Parents’ Guide to Manage Toddlers and Tech with Scripts to feel more confident, connected, and calm—one moment at a time. Let’s start a conversation.How are you managing tantrums and tech at home or in your setting?
Boys, Brands & Big Tech: The Hidden Influencers Raising Our Sons
🚨 How Big Tech & Brands Are Targeting Boys — And Why It Matters 🎮 1. Gaming Skins = Social Currency In Fortnite, Roblox, and similar platforms, boys are encouraged to spend money on digital “skins” and upgrades that have zero functional purpose — but huge social value. The message? You need this to fit in. 💪 2. Supplements & “Alpha” Culture Teen boys (and even tweens) are being served content on protein powders, pre-workouts, and “bulking” — often laced with toxic masculinity messaging. They’re learning that muscles = worth. Insecurity is now a revenue stream. 🧢 3. Hyper-Masculine Influencers From TikTok to YouTube, many boys are exposed to influencers promoting “toughness,” emotional repression, and dominance — masked as “confidence.” Some even veer into misogyny and red-pill ideology — all under the guise of self-improvement. 📱 4. YouTube Ads & Algorithm Bait Boys watching innocent Minecraft or football videos often get fed ads for “cool” gear, competitive challenges, or status-driven products — from branded trainers to energy drinks. It’s aspirational marketing disguised as entertainment. 🕶️ 5. Digital Gear & Tech Fetishisation Smartwatches, gamer headsets, LED room lights, VR sets — marketed as essentials for being “in the know” or a better gamer. Big Tech sells boys the idea that more tech = more status. These patterns show that boys, like girls, are being nudged towards narrow definitions of success, confidence, and self-worth — shaped not by character but by commerce. Here are five conversation-starting scripts for parents to use with boys (or any child really) to gently explore the influence of Big Tech, marketing, and digital identity — in your warm, curious tone that invites reflection, not fear or shame. 🧠 1. The “Why Do You Want It?” Script “That new skin looks cool — what makes it special to you?”(Pause and listen)“Do you think it’s about how it helps in the game, or how it looks to others?” ➡️ This script encourages kids to explore the difference between play and social pressure. 📺 2. The “Who’s Behind the Screen?” Script “You know how some YouTubers always have the latest gear or protein drinks?”“What do you think — are they showing you something because they love it, or because someone’s paying them to?” ➡️ This opens the door to digital literacy and decoding influencer culture. 🎯 3. The “Real Strength” Script “Some people online talk a lot about being ‘alpha’ or strong. What do you think makes someone strong?”(Let them speak — then gently offer alternatives)“I think being kind, calm, and brave in tough moments is a kind of strength too.” ➡️ This helps shift strength from image to values. 👟 4. The “Stuff or Self?” Script “Do you think you’d still be you if you didn’t have that skin/trainer/tech?”“What are the things about you that no one can buy or sell?” ➡️ This builds identity beyond possessions or avatars. 🧍♂️ 5. The “Pressure Check-In” Script “Do you ever feel like you have to look or act a certain way to fit in online or at school?”(If they say yes, stay open and curious)“That’s really normal — want to talk about it more together?” ➡️ This opens space for vulnerability and connection. In the end, the real power lies with us as parents. While Big Tech and the marketing machine may seem like forces too large to fight, we have the ability to guide our children with intention, compassion, and awareness. By staying engaged, asking questions, and teaching them the value of self-worth beyond likes, skins, or ads, we can give our children the tools to navigate this digital jungle with confidence. Let’s not allow tech giants to define who our children are or who they should become. Instead, let’s take control and raise a generation grounded in authenticity, kindness, and resilience.
Navigating the Digital Jungle in Blended Families: Challenges, Solutions & Conversation Starters
Blending families is a journey filled with love, patience, and, at times, unexpected challenges. In today’s digital world, stepfamilies face unique hurdles when it comes to managing screen time, setting boundaries, and fostering healthy online habits. Unlike other family units, where routines may be well-established blended families often have to navigate differing parenting styles, house rules, and expectations when it comes to technology. So, how can blended families successfully find their way through the digital jungle without it becoming a battleground? Here, I explore key challenges and offer practical solutions, along with conversation starters to help ease tensions and create a sense of unity. Challenges of Digital Parenting in Stepfamilies 1. Differing Parenting Approaches to Tech One parent may be relaxed about screen time, while the other has stricter rules. Add in different expectations from biological parents in separate households, and suddenly, consistency feels impossible. Solution:Agree on a “House Digital Agreement”—a simple, written set of family tech rules that apply in your shared home. Involve the children in creating it so they feel heard and respected. It’s okay if different homes have different rules, but clarity within your household reduces confusion. Conversation Starter:“I know different families have different rules about screen time. In our home, I’d love for us to agree together on what feels fair and works for everyone. What do you think would be a good starting point?” 2. “They Get to Do It at Mum’s/Dad’s House!” It’s common for children to push boundaries by comparing rules in different households. “At Mum’s, I can stay up playing Fortnite!” or “At Dad’s, I don’t have to put my phone away at dinner!” can lead to frustration and resentment. Solution:Instead of focusing on what happens elsewhere, frame rules as a reflection of what matters in your home. Consistency and predictability provide security, even if they resist at first. Conversation Starter:“I understand that things might be different at your other home, and that’s okay. But in our house, we have this rule because we want to [protect sleep/have time together/keep everyone safe]. Let’s figure out how to make it work for you too.” 3. Managing Social Media & Group Chats Step-siblings, half-siblings, household siblings and other blended family relationship may feel pressure to ‘perform’ in blended family settings, which can spill into social media. Teenagers especially may struggle with how to present their new family dynamic online, or how to handle group chats where tensions between households can arise. Solution:Talk openly about the pressures of social media and reassure children that they don’t need to post or share anything they’re uncomfortable with. Encourage house siblings to set healthy boundaries in family group chats—no pressure to reply instantly, no shaming or teasing, and respect for privacy. Conversation Starter:“Social media can sometimes make family relationships feel more complicated. How do you feel about posting things about our family? No pressure either way, but we can chat if anything ever feels tricky.” 4. Gaming & Bonding—or Dividing? Video games can be a fantastic way for house siblings to bond, but they can also become a source of tension—especially if some children feel left out or if gaming time is causing conflict. Solution:Encourage games that can be played together and set up fair screen time rules so no one feels left out. If gaming is a sticking point, plan screen-free bonding activities too, like board games or family outings. Conversation Starter:“I love that you guys enjoy gaming together! How about we pick a game everyone can join in with this weekend? And if someone doesn’t feel like playing, that’s okay too—let’s find other fun things to do together as well.” 5. Screen Time as an Escape from Emotions Children in blended families may use screens as a way to avoid difficult emotions—whether that’s adjusting to a new routine, dealing with change, or navigating relationships in a blended household. Solution:Create natural opportunities for open conversations and connection without forcing them. Simple rituals like tech-free meal times or a ‘walk and talk’ tradition can help kids feel safe to share when they’re ready. Conversation Starter:“I’ve noticed you’ve been spending a bit more time on your phone lately—no judgement, but I just wanted to check in. Is there anything on your mind? I’m here if you ever want to chat.” Final Thoughts: Tech as a Tool for Connection Technology doesn’t have to be a source of division in blended families—it can also be a powerful way to connect. Watching a series together, sharing funny memes, or even playing a co-op game can help strengthen relationships. The key is balance, mutual respect, and open conversations. By establishing fair and flexible digital boundaries together, blended families can turn the digital jungle into a shared adventure, rather than a battleground. Download ‘Our House Digital Agreement‘ Why not create a ‘House Family Digital Agreement’ together? A fun way to do this is by writing five simple tech agreements and signing them as a family. This could include: ✔️ No phones at mealtimes✔️ One screen-free activity together each week✔️ Respect for personal screen space and privacy✔️ Open conversations if something feels wrong online✔️ Remembering that technology should bring us together, not push us apart The digital world is here to stay, but with thoughtful discussions and shared agreements, blended families can navigate it with confidence and connection. If you need help about creating one or are unsure about what to say to your family, I have created ‘Our House Digital Agreement‘ for Blended Families download. Download it here
Inclusive Digital Parenting for LGBTQ+ Families: Supporting Identity and Safety in the Digital World
In a time when conversations about LGBTQ+ rights and acceptance are increasingly in the spotlight — from political debates to cultural shifts — parenting in the digital age comes with unique challenges. Figures like Donald Trump have reignited discussions about inclusion, equality, and representation, often creating polarising narratives. For LGBTQ+ families, this makes it even more important to provide children with the tools to navigate online spaces safely and confidently. The digital world can be a place of connection and affirmation, but it can also expose young people to prejudice and misinformation. As parents, guiding your child through these complexities means creating an environment where they feel supported, understood, and empowered. Here are some suggestions about how LGBTQ+ families can approach digital parenting with care and intention. Inclusive Digital Parenting for LGBTQ+ Families: Supporting Identity and Safety in the Digital World In today’s digital world, LGBTQ+ families face both exciting opportunities and unique challenges. The internet provides endless avenues for connection and self-expression, but it also brings its own set of difficulties — especially when it comes to supporting children in exploring their identities safely. As digital spaces continue to evolve, it’s essential to help your child navigate these spaces, ensuring they feel supported, affirmed, and understood. Here’s how LGBTQ+ families can approach digital parenting with confidence and care. 1. Supporting Identity Exploration in Safe Digital Spaces For many LGBTQ+ children, the digital world can be a vital space for exploring their identity and finding communities that understand them. However, this space can also be fraught with risks, from cyberbullying to harmful content. As parents, it’s essential to guide your child in exploring their identity online in a way that feels safe and affirming. Practical Tips for Parents: A Word of Encouragement: Exploring who they are can be empowering for your child. The digital world, when navigated thoughtfully, can be a place for them to connect with like-minded peers, find affirmation, and grow in their sense of self. 2. Navigating Conversations About Online Acceptance and Allyship The digital world can sometimes be an unwelcoming place, with harmful comments, cyberbullying, or prejudice coming from people who don’t understand LGBTQ+ identities. It’s crucial to prepare your child to handle such situations, and more importantly, teach them about allyship and inclusivity in online spaces. Practical Tips for Parents: A Word of Encouragement: Raising your child to be an ally in the digital world is just as important as helping them protect themselves. The internet can be a place of empowerment, where children not only find support but can also be a source of change for others. 3. Finding LGBTQ+ Affirming Resources and Communities Online One of the greatest benefits of the digital age is the access it provides to diverse communities and resources. For LGBTQ+ families, there’s a wealth of information, support networks, and resources that can affirm your child’s identity and offer them a sense of belonging. Practical Tips for Parents: A Word of Encouragement: The digital world can offer your child a sense of connection and empowerment. Whether through online communities or affirming media, there are countless resources available that can help your child feel seen and heard. Inclusive digital parenting for LGBTQ+ families involves fostering a space where your child can explore their identity with confidence, while also ensuring they are protected from the potential risks of the digital world. Through open communication, guiding your child to affirming resources, and teaching them about allyship, you’re helping them navigate the complexities of the digital age. Remember, every family’s journey is unique, and your approach to digital parenting will look different from others. What’s most important is that your child feels supported, valued, and empowered both in the digital world and in the world at large. You are their greatest ally, and with your guidance, they can thrive in a world that is increasingly diverse and interconnected. Navigating the Digital World as LGBTQ+ Parents It’s not just children who face unique challenges online — LGBTQ+ parents also navigate digital spaces that can be both empowering and difficult. Whether connecting with other families, seeking advice, or advocating for inclusivity, parents need support in managing their digital presence and well-being. Practical Tips for LGBTQ+ Parents: A Word of Encouragement:As a parent, you’re already setting an incredible example for your child by navigating the world with authenticity and courage. The digital space is no different. By embracing community, curating safe spaces, and advocating for inclusion, you’re not only supporting your own well-being but also paving the way for a more accepting online world for future generations. I hope you found this helpful – feel free to share it
Navigating Digital Inclusion for Families with Disabilities
In today’s digital world, technology has the power to connect, educate, and empower families. But for families with disabilities, accessing and navigating online spaces isn’t always easy. From inaccessible websites to a lack of assistive tools in schools, digital inclusion remains a challenge. Every family deserves an online experience that works for them, and there are ways to make the digital world more accessible for all. Here are some suggestions and ideas about how families can ensure digital inclusion, advocate for better accessibility, and create online spaces where everyone can participate fully. 1. Accessible Tech Options and Assistive Tools The right technology can be life-changing for children and parents with disabilities. Many mainstream devices now offer built-in accessibility features, while specialised assistive tools provide additional support. Practical Tips: Explore Built-in Accessibility Features: Smartphones, tablets, and computers have options like voice control, text-to-speech, magnification, and colour contrast settings. Spend time customising these features to suit your family’s needs. Use Assistive Technology: Tools like screen readers (e.g., JAWS, NVDA), speech-to-text software (e.g., Dragon NaturallySpeaking), and alternative keyboards or switches can help children and adults navigate the digital world more easily. Consider Adaptive Gaming & Entertainment: Consoles like Xbox and PlayStation offer adaptive controllers, while platforms like Netflix and YouTube provide captions and audio descriptions for accessibility. Check for Accessibility Before Purchasing Devices: When buying new tech, look for devices and apps designed with accessibility in mind. Websites like AbilityNet and Apple’s Accessibility Hub can guide you. Encouraging Thought: Technology should work for everyone. Finding the right tools can empower your child to learn, communicate, and connect with confidence. 2. Advocating for Digital Accessibility in Schools and Communities Many schools and community programmes are still catching up when it comes to digital accessibility. Parents and caregivers play a vital role in pushing for change. Practical Tips: Talk to Schools About Accessibility Needs: Ask how your child’s school ensures digital accessibility. Do they provide assistive tech? Are online lessons, apps, and homework platforms accessible? Work with teachers to identify and address gaps. Encourage Inclusive Policies: Advocate for accessibility in school and community programmes. Whether it’s requesting captions on school videos or ensuring digital resources are screen-reader friendly, small changes make a big difference. Support Digital Literacy for All: Some families struggle with digital tools due to physical or cognitive disabilities. Encourage schools and local groups to offer training sessions on assistive technology and accessible digital skills. Join Advocacy Groups: Organisations like Scope and the National Deaf Children’s Society campaign for better digital inclusion. Connecting with other parents can strengthen your voice and lead to meaningful change. Encouraging Thought: Your advocacy can create a ripple effect. The more we speak up, the more inclusive the digital world becomes—not just for our own children, but for future generations. 3. Creating Inclusive Online Experiences for All Family Members The internet should be a place where every family member, regardless of ability, can engage, learn, and have fun. Creating an inclusive online experience means choosing platforms, apps, and digital activities that cater to everyone’s needs. Practical Tips: Choose Family-Friendly Platforms with Accessibility Features: Look for social media, entertainment, and learning apps that prioritise accessibility. For example, Zoom has live captions, and apps like Microsoft’s Seeing AI assist visually impaired users. Set Up Safe Digital Spaces: Use parental controls that accommodate accessibility needs. Some filters may block important accessibility tools, so double-check settings to ensure your child has full, safe access. Encourage Inclusive Online Interactions: If your child plays online games or engages in digital communities, talk about inclusive behaviour. Teach them how to support others who may have different accessibility needs. Adapt Digital Activities for All Abilities: If a family member struggles with certain digital tasks, find alternative ways to engage. Voice commands, audiobooks, and tactile screen protectors can make technology more user-friendly. Encouraging Thought: Inclusion starts at home. By making small adjustments, you’re creating an online environment where every family member feels valued and included. Final Thoughts Digital inclusion isn’t just about having access to technology—it’s about making sure technology works for everyone. Whether through assistive tools, advocacy, or inclusive digital spaces, families can help shape a more accessible world. By taking small steps—adjusting device settings, speaking up in schools, or choosing accessible apps—you can make a lasting impact. Every child, every parent, and every family member deserves to experience the digital world without barriers. Technology should open doors, not close them. And with the right tools and mindset, we can make that a reality. Feel free to share this with someone who would find it helpful.
